8. He makes the rules
The rules he sets in the relationship apply differently to you and him. While you aren’t allowed to hang out with friends he doesn’t like, he can hang out with his friends that you don’t like. When you make the same suggestion he makes on your life, he’ll make you seem like you are being selfish or misunderstanding.
9. He makes all the decisions
At first, this can seem like a chivalrous act. He helps you out, gives you suggestions, and makes all the plans. Over time you will begin to slowly realize you aren’t allowed to have an opinion or decide things for yourself unless you want to be criticized for the decision you do make.
10. He’ll have an emotional breakdown
This is one of the signs of a controlling boyfriend that shows up any time you hold your ground in an argument. Anytime you refuse to listen to his point of view or give into his demands, he will have a breakdown. There will be tears and he will say how you don’t care about him like you used to. What this ends up doing is making you feel guilty and will result in you always giving in to make him happy.
11. He threatens you
Threats do not have to be physical to have an impact. His threat can range from harming himself to taking away privileges. He will also threaten to leave you. Depending on how long you have been in the relationship, this can make you fearful since you already feel you can’t do anything without him.
12. The affection he gives is conditional
He’d be more affectionate towards you if you worked out more. He loves you more when you are doing well at your job. He will make it seem like you have to constantly earn his love and that you are never good enough for him to just be able to love.
13. He keeps score
While healthy relationships have an unspoken give and take, when you are in a controlling relationship, he will keep track of every little thing he does for you. He will use this in the future to demand favors and hold grudges because he will also keep careful track of how many favors you do for others.
14. They make you feel in debt to them
This is one of the signs of a controlling boyfriend that can be hard to detect. He will shower you with gifts, let you borrow the car, give you full access to his house, even when he is away for long periods of time. However, with all these things he lets you do, he will use against you to make you feel like you are in debt to him. He will remind you constant of all the things he has given you.
15. He’ll make you doubt yourself
On top of downplaying all your accomplishment and making you feel like you are unable to do anything on your own, he will make you give up on the things you are passionate about. Since nothing you do is ever good enough, why bother trying to go after the things you really want. This is their way of taking complete control over your life and making you really need to depend and rely on them for everything.